Monday, September 14, 2009

Week 3

Today is Monday September 14th. 2 weeks till I get to go back home. And 3 weeks since Jordyn started her insane, hair pulling, eye jabbing, horrible behavior. It's taking a sever toll on me and my current state of sanity. I have so much stress over trying not to snap that it boils over and I end up being a bitch the whole day. I feel like the incredible hulk. Thankfully I have a doctor's appointment this Thursday and hopefully she will be able to prescribe me something so I can be calm because my stressed behavior causes Jordyn to also be stressed and mean and it's a viscous cycle. Friday was bad. She was just so mean all day. Everything I tried to do with her or give her was "NO" and every time I tried to play with her or sing or dance she would yell "STOP" at me. It was very trying. And after hours of mean behavior and tantrums I tried to put her down for a nap. I have to lay on her floor till she falls asleep or she will just get out of her toddler bed and run a muck. Friday I laid her down and she flipped out, kicking, screaming, punching the wall. The whole shebang. Then she went on to scream like someone was killing her for 10 minutes. I have neighbors who probably hate my guts and think I abuse the crap out of her. Our walls are paper thin. I'm trying to get her to calm down by just continuing to lay her down and not talk to her or yell. After about 20 tries I snapped mentally. I think my brain froze for a good 10 minutes. I was producing tears but I felt no emotion. I was staring blankly out the window for 10-15 minutes while I uttered "You ruined my life" (yeah this is real sorry to the moms out there that have perfect lives) I didn't even look in her direction. I heard her say "Don't cry mama" but it didn't really matter. I was froze in my brain. She slowly laid down and fell asleep while I sat looking out the window for another 10 minutes trying to get my brain to click back on.

Eventually it did as you can tell. Now I don't for one minute really think my daughter ruined my life. Quite the opposite to be exact. But when there are weeks of behavior like this it's hard not to think where you went wrong. What did I do in the 2 years she has been alive that sparked such evil and horrible behavior towards everything, not just me or her daddy but everything. She knows not to hit other people but now she just hits herself. Any tiny little thing can set her off. And the screaming can last for a long time. If you try to please her with toys or distractions, she will throw them right back at you. Nothing works. Time outs don't work, makes it worse actually. I don't think I can handle another week of this. I keep telling myself... only three more days till my appointment. I've never been more happy to see a doctor in my life.


Adi said...

Oh mama. You described Marcus to a T and I'm so there with you on the being totally frustrated with behavior. Marcus has been a beast since Jamesen came home and Jamesen cries all day long so it's been really hard on me. I'm SO there with you and I so feel for you and wish I could take Jordyn for a day since I guarantee she would listen to me since I'm not mommy. That's how Marcus works anyways.

Nathan Pralle said...

So....caring, inquisitive minds want to are you? Did the doctor help? Are you holding up?

the Provident Woman said...

I hope things are going better.